The older I get, the more I love being home! Spending time with my husband and dogs makes my heart sing, essentially I have become a hermit and homebody.
However, when I say no or don’t go to something, I suddenly start feeling FOMO!
FOMO is a relatively new term but the emotion is far from new.
Fear of Missing Out is a longing and desire to be where you are not currently. It is classified as “pervasive apprehension that others might be having rewarding experiences from which one is absent”. This social anxiety is characterised by “a desire to stay continually connected with what others are doing”.
Think of that time you have felt sick and unable to attend a party or when you haven’t had enough money to go overseas with your friends or even that family event you really love going to, but you are in a different state, when you are sitting at home thinking about how much you really long to be there, you are experiencing FOMO.
MJB teach that the concept of FOMO is when we are thinking on a singular level about what we are losing by not being there. Do you feel you are missing out on the connection with others? Are you feeling you are missing out on the experience?
In the MJB world, you need to recognise that the universe happens in duality, that there is a plus and a minus to everything so… if you are missing out on something, you must be gaining something.
If you are sick and unable to attend a party, you may be craving that connection with friends but what you are actually receiving is a reconnection with yourself. Do you see how that works? The universe always gives you want you need.
Feel free to feel the FOMO but also understand that you are not actually missing out… you have just gained something different to what you wanted, and even more importantly it could also be gaining what you ACTUALLY wanted and just weren’t aware of wanting/needing.
It all balances out – but we focus on the fear of losing rather than what is being gained…when we see both in equal measure – FOMO disappears.
Isn’t the universe a wonderful thing?!
Written by Tasch Turner